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“Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.”
The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes. « CaptainAwkward.com
I love this post SO MUCH.
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miss krys—take note.
“Now when they had departed, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream, saying, “Y’all gon make me lose my mind, up in here, up in here. Y’all gon make me act a fool, up in here, up in here. Y’all gon make me lose my cool, up in here, up in here. Also take Jesus out of this place, yo.”
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I love how well you assholes know me.
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Brilliant. (via urlesque)
How to increase tips courtesy of Starbucks Sherman Oaks.
or, how to empty krystal’s wallet in one go
Memories….
Though hyper-aware in keeping with his gumshoe predecessor, Sherlock Holmes, Elba’s sleuth is by no means as reserved. He’s prone to head bashings and unpredictable table-flippings. In many ways, he’s the polar opposite of Stringer Bell, the methodical, stoic drug dealer Elba played for three seasons on HBO’s groundbreaking urban saga, The Wire. Then again, the London-born actor is fond of exploring new roles. Most people, he admits, are surprised when they discover his imposing 6’2” frame manning the decks at a local club, spinning the latest house thumpers under one of his many musical monikers. He also does some singing, crooning seductive island R&B under the name Driis. Is the man who just wrapped production on Prometheus, Ridley Scott’s Alien prequel, worried that audiences might dismiss these ventures as yet another celebrity vanity project? “There’s definitely the possibility that I’ll be pegged as that guy,” he says. “So I do everything in my power to not be him. If it happens, I’ll take it with a grain of salt.”
Idris Elba on Shedding Stringer Bell, Playing John Luther, and Why He Loves Being a DJ
This is so timely. I just finished watching The Wire for the first time last night. And was missing some Stringer/Elba in my life so I started watching Luther this morning. I’m not exaggerating at all when I say that he’s the sexiest man ever, right? Right.
when I’m right I’m right
“Lifting of the veil”
Read.
We live in absolutely fascinating times.
Even fewer people remember that “Apocalypse” is an underrated track off of Wyclef Jean’s “The Carnival” album which is based on a wicked sample of Danielle Licari’s “Concerto Pour Une Voix”
We remember, Matt. We remember.
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